Longing for excitement, adventures, or change in your life or marriage – this used to be a common issue between the more introverted and content partner and the more extroverted and impetuous partner. Working as a sex and relationship therapist for more than two decades, I’d say that it’s true for just about all of us these days. We are faced with precious few opportunities for anything to “happen.” This is largely because we try to do our part to protect our health, the health of those closest to us, and the overall good of the country.
Working Towards Having a Satisfying Sexual Intimacy in your Marriage
The solution is to bring creativity and imagination into play and discover new and previously unconsidered activities, like marriage therapy exercises. These can generate some excitement and variety into your daily quarantined lives. But how does one do this when a general atmosphere of boredom and hopelessness is let loose on the land?
Solutions are not out of reach – as is always the case with these kinds of miasmic clouds. One begins by committing to finding a solution regardless of the degree of difficulty. Marriage counseling and therapy plays a big role in patching up these differences.
Next, take the first step to implement a chosen change–however small or insignificant it might appear. Do not just rely on your level of sexual compatibility. When the two of you decide to find a solution together AND agree to be proactive. Research, brainstorm and listen to every suggestion the other makes without criticism or negative response, and you are well on your way.
Do not discount the option of undergoing relationship coaching or couples therapy counseling. These may help you rev up your passion and excitement.
A walk in the park is not a cruise to the Islands. Ordering groceries and preparing TOGETHER a dinner you haven’t previously tried is not a night out at a five-star restaurant.
Yes, you will have to lower your standards for adventure (for a while). But, you don’t need to lower your standards for expressing joy, creativity, and love for each other. Then, something WILL happen to your marriage.