Power and Control: Who Steers the Wheel

If you encounter this question in a couples therapy session on who wields more power and influence, what would you say (to me, not to your partner)?. Some couples both say “I do”. Others point to each other. Some say “both” (rarely true). The healthiest answer can be “ It depends”—meaning both acknowledge each other’s strengths and weaknesses. So, what do you say? What would your partner say?