More than 300 days of pressurized relationships and couples are starting to feel the strain. How is yours doing these days? Have you found yourself inexplicably irritable? Easily frustrated? Are you occasionally depressed for “no reason”? Are there days when your partner is picking away at your last nerve?
Disasters force people to confront loss and the possibility of their mortality. That self-focus puts tremendous pressure on relationships that thrive when the focus is otherwise on each other. That pressure can damage even the strongest relationships and bend them to the breaking point or even shatter those that were already flawed.
How intimacy therapy and marriage coaching can take your relationship to the next level
First: It’s not just you, and it’s not just your partner! Don’t ignore the outside influence of all these powerfully negative elements and their effect on everyone’s relationships. Acknowledge that some of your frustration and anger with your partner may be influenced by that universal stress.
Secondly: Check in with each other at least once each week, or even daily, to know the status of your emotional well-being. Don’t let anxiety, frustration, or resentment fester but also, don’t complain and criticize. Instead, observe and then stay focused on solutions and resolution.
Thirdly: Establish new rituals for yourself and the two of you. Create routines that you adhere to with discipline. Let each other know of those behaviors that create the most difficult responses for each of you and set boundaries that will ease or eliminate those pressures. Out of the cauldron of this upheaval, you can find renewed strength, unexpected joy, and greater love.
Take this opportunity to overcome challenges in your relationship
Pathways to Intimacy provides a course that helps you focus on each other and the intimacy you share. Bringing more love, passion, and pleasure into your relationship can help dissolve the unhappiness and difficulties that this pandemic has brought into the lives of many couples.
Can you think of a better way to spend this imposed togetherness?