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Longing for excitement, adventures, or change in your life or marriage - this used to be a common issue between the more introverted and content partner and the more extroverted and impetuous partner. Working as a sex and...

"We just need to work on our communication" That's something I hear from the majority of people who call me to undergo my online course for marriage coaching. Sometimes that is all that needs to be attended to (sometimes not). The healing process usually requires: 1....

Literally, in the bedroom—dogs, children, and technology are the main external “excuses” I hear for lack of marital intimacy. Metaphorically, there are several factors that all crowd the room and sow impediments and disappointments. These include attitudes and...

So, how’s that quarantined, hunkered down, “stay-at-home” Christmas season going? After 10 months of unprecedented togetherness what would you say about your relationship? (oh, yeah, and how’s that home schooling going?) This has been a trying time to be sure. For...

Relationships will always encounter problems. Very often, the first thing the partners do is to assign the blame—accuse—and determine who's at fault in the situation. A better way to begin is to ask, "HOW CAN WE RESOLVE THIS PARTICULAR CONFLICT RIGHT NOW?" When the...

So the plan is that the two of you are going to make sex new and exciting. Sex therapy helps you to create an endless sense of adventure inside the bedroom. On the other hand, maybe sex is so great now you’ll never need to change it? Well, that will work—until it...

Couples on the topic of sex: "My partner never initiates." or "My partner always initiates." I hear these common complaints when I talk with couples individually (before meeting them together) during couples coaching. Next to frequency, sex initiation techniques are...

Who has the most power in your relationship? If you encounter this question in a couples therapy session on who wields more power and influence, what would you say (to me, not to your partner)?. Some couples both say “I do”. Others point to each other. Some say “both”...

More than 300 days of pressurized relationships and couples are starting to feel the strain. How is yours doing these days? Have you found yourself inexplicably irritable? Easily frustrated? Are you occasionally depressed for "no reason"? Are there days when your...

"I'll bet your practice is really busy with all these couples stuck in the house with each other." - It's one of the most frequent comments I hear as a relationship therapist these days. It's basically the same with most intimacy and marriage counselors.  Being a...